How to Avoid Raising a Narcissist or Sociopath

Let’s talk about narcissism and sociopaths. Specifically, how to avoid raising a narcissist or sociopath. I thought I’d combine the two and help teach you how to avoid raising a narcissist or sociopath. How to avoid raising a narcissist or sociopath You don’t want to deal with narcissists or sociopaths anywhere; you certainly don’t want your child to have that kind of problem. Narcissism and sociopathy are descriptive titles of personality disorders. The larger group is personality disorders. Personality disorders are defined as not monsters and horrible people that you hear in the media, but we define personality problem as somebody who has difficulty with intimate relationships. I know it makes no sense. Personality disorder does not mean you have a bad personality; in fact, sociopaths often have lovely personalities; it’s part of their trick, part of the manipulation. The definition means you have not just the typical trouble with intimate relationships that we all have but the extreme problems. Such as, you can’t maintain long-standing intimate relationships. What goes into maintaining long-standing intimate relationships? That way, you can maintain long-term relationships, and you don’t have a personality disorder and therefore are not by definition a narcissist or a sociopath. How to how to raise a child who does not have a personality disorder, means you have to understand what goes behind that. Understanding what the foundation is of maintaining intimate relationships. The key here is to have a good sense in capabilities to give and take, you can give and take. Another way of putting that is to have a good capacity to control yourself and to put up boundaries with the other person. Notice, I didn’t say control yourself and control others. A big problem parents have is controlling themselves and putting up boundaries, which helps a child control themselves. Also, the capacity to change your parenting style as the child grows up. So many parents are using the same techniques for punishment and discipline when the child’s a teenager as when the child was three. Makes no sense, right? But it happens all the time. Three areas to focus on: Controlling yourself Putting up a boundary with a child Changing your parenting techniques Controlling yourself (taking care of yourself). There are lots of things that children do that they need to do, to have healthy self-esteem, to feel autonomous, to feel grown-up, to feel separate from their …

How to Deal With Sociopaths and Narcissists in Your Life

Sociopaths and Narcissists How to deal with sociopaths and narcissists, in other words, how to deal with difficult people in your life. This is an important topic because sometimes people don’t see it if they weren’t taught about narcissists or sociopaths or provided the tools to see the red flags. The difference mainly between sociopaths and narcissists are sociopaths are equated to monsters and narcissists are equated to full of themselves or stuck-up and this is somewhat true. The proper term for a sociopath is an antisocial personality disorder, that does not mean you don’t like to go to parties. Antisocial personality disorder means essentially that you’re a criminal. Sociopath is the layperson’s term for that. Basically, it’s somebody who doesn’t just break the law but breaking the law is a way for them to get distance from people. They can’t do relationships. This is a truism that a lot of people don’t understand, not everybody can do relationships. They don’t realize it, it’s unconscious. This is not them saying they’re going to fake a relationship, it is unconscious. That terminology is personality disorder when someone has difficulty or impossibility to create a substantial, healthy, intimate relationship. We call it a personality disorder and then there are different flavors. Closeness feels threatening. Narcissism is when the closeness gets to be too much for these people. Closeness feels threatening. If your healthy, closeness feels good but to people with personality disorders it feels threatening; so they break the closeness. Again, not consciously but they’ll break the closeness by putting another person down and putting themselves up. Narcissists have to break that closeness by belittling a person or being mean. In a relationship they can’t both be good at something, it has to be “I’m better and you’re not.” They have to do this to break the closeness. Sociopaths break the law to break the closeness or keep secrets from you. So breaking the law is a way of breaking any tie with society. “I’m not going to follow the societal rules, I do it my way.” So they break the societal rules and they break the closeness with you because they have a secret. It’s a way of pushing everybody out and to keep himself from feeling close. So the problem is people think if someone really can’t handle closeness then they’d be a hermit, right? If someone is a hermit, …

Red and Pink Flags!

red and pink flags when it comes to people and their behaviors hey guys now it’s Thursday I know I saw I get my days except you but this is why because we’re introducing you to my Richmond office and for you know those of you that don’t know me I’m Tyler I’m the coach here in Richmond I’m still dr. dabney I just oh yeah we’ve been working really really hard on this office so we need her and it’s really really really excited because tomorrow is their grand opening so if you’re in the Richmond area and Glen allen just a little north of Richmond so if you’re in the area you stop by yes you tomorrow 4:00 to 6:00 we’re having catered heavy hors d’oeuvres yes cocktails and you can come and meet us and see our beautiful new office which was designed by the same designer who did 3rd in each office yes who is this rockstars wonderful goodness gracious our friends and in decorator it’s amazing mr. Nick Monique Rizzo yes we can’t leave out John John’s her husband who is the architect of that team and he does help her yes behind the scenes yes Missy oh my goodness I’m gonna do a quick tour yeah I make you nauseous maybe it’s a great idea you want to show you the whole office you’re all she’s gonna die you gotta come see it in person yes that’s why we need to come and see the cool sculpture on the wall there yeah great job so we’re in love with the space and we will be welcoming doctors here tomorrow night and other guests you start seeing patients here for the first time we’re really excited very excited and we’ll be doing you know the same things here as the Virginia Beach office offering coaching services there as well as therapy with dr. Dabney so it’s going to be a good time we’re very excited about this new office I’m just ecstatic it’s others my joelle version here in Richmond and I would have been telling people is that we are trying to break down those barriers that keep people from coming in the door yes and a party is a good way to do that but also we’ve been talking about different things that we have heard that have kept people coming in such …