Do you ever ask yourself, “Is my child a sociopath?” Or wonder how someone becomes a sociopath?
How to know or get an idea of whether your child is on the path toward a personality disorder.
First, we must understand that emotional health is about being able to express our emotions. We must especially be able to express the negative emotions; anger, neediness, and sadness. The ultimate emotional wellbeing is someone who can express their emotions. This is very important for relationship purposes because that is how we relate to people. By talking about our emotions, not acting out on them- that’s a younger child thing, not a teenager, young adult, or adult. People need to talk about their emotions in relationships and dissipate emotions. Emotions dissipate by talking about them.
Relationships and Emotions
If you take those two factors to find out if your child is on the wrong path in terms of developing their relationships, you’ll want to look at their relationships. You’ll want to look outside of their family relationships because how they treat the family can be very different and often is because they’re trying to separate from you.
You can go to the teachers and ask how your child is relating to peers and other teachers. Ask your child’s friend’s parents how your child is doing with their family, as well as their pets. You can learn a lot about a child’s empathy by how they deal with pets. Also, you can go to the child’s coaches and ask how the child is dealing with other coaches and teammates. Asking the people outside of your family about how your child is doing, is a way to see how your child’s relationships are forming in general. If those are all pretty good, then your child is on the right track. If your child is having trouble with expressing their emotions, those are most likely damaged or not very healthy.
If your child is not able to express their emotions and their emotions are not dissipating correctly, you’ll often see the child turning the emotions inward. In this case, you’ll want to look for any on-going self-harm. Such as cutting, chronic overeating or obesity, or addiction. Of course, kids experiment, but if you find something such as a fifth of vodka under their bed, that is a long-standing form of hurting themselves. These are all signs that they are not able to talk through their emotions, and they’re turning inward.
If your child has a major problem with relationships or emotions, they may not be properly expressing their emotions. If they’re not properly expressing their emotions, they may not be able to develop healthy relationships. They may be on the path toward a personality disorder. If you’re able, get your child into therapy, but they may not want to go. In that case, you can go yourself and learn how to better guide your child in the direction of a healthy relational life.
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