Intimacy vs Sex Quiz

The Intimacy vs Sex Quiz

Which force drives your relationships?

How much do you know about these two powerful forces? And which one is in the driver’s seat when it comes to your relationships?

Question One:

If your partner says (s)he wants to increase the intimacy in your relationship, how
are you most likely to try doing that?

A. Give her/him more gifts and initiate sex more often.

B. Agree with her/him more.

C. Make an attempt to connect with her/him emotionally, even when you sense you’re
not on the same page about an issue.

Question Two:

In your experience, what’s the most prominent warning signal that your relationship may be
on the rocks?

A. You hardly have sex anymore.

B. You may have sex as much as you used to, but you’re fighting more often.

C. You seem to be living on two different planets and hardly spend any time together,
let alone have sex with each other.

Question Three:

It’s often said that make-up sex is the best sex. Which of the following best
matches your thoughts on why?

A. The physical rush of sex takes care of all the pent-up energy from the fight and
makes me feel better.

B. Arguments can be mentally draining. Sex is a way of saying, “We’re still a couple”;
it brings us together, instead of seeing each other as the enemy as we do when
we fight.

C. Sex can be just as emotional as it is physical. Make-up sex is great because if you’ve just resolved an argument together, you’re connecting on the most
intimate level possible.

Question Four:

Foreplay and sex go hand-in-hand. Which of the following best matches your thoughts on how to ensure one follows the other?

A. It’s all about getting her/him into the bedroom. If you spend enough time getting the mood right physically, sex is pretty much a certainty.

B. It’s about finding the right moment. If either one of us is exhausted or distracted, there’s not much hope of sex. But when we’re both game, it’s a pretty sure thing.

C. It’s all about connecting emotionally. If we waited until we were both in the mood or
the kids weren’t sick, or neither one of us were stressed at work, we’d never have sex.
Making a dedicated effort to connect leads to way more sex than
jumping into bed together.

How did you do?

Score your quiz by giving yourself the following points:
1 point for each time you answered A
2 points for each time you answered B
3 points for each time you answered C

Four to Five Points:
Your understanding of intimacy runs toward the physical. You most likely confuse the two concepts and, as a result, may put a premium on the amount of sex you’re having in your relationships, rather than on the emotional intimacy you establish with your partners. Keep reading.

Six to Eight Points:
You’ve got a grasp on the fact that physical sex and emotional intimacy are not the same. Keep reading to learn more about why, as well as ideas on how to continue to build intimacy in your relationships.

Nine to Twelve Points:
Congratulations, you know the crucial role emotional intimacy plays in the health of our relationships. Keep reading for ideas on how to keep the intimacy strong.

Intimacy vs Sex: The Reality

If you scored in the lower ranges, let me assure you that you are not alone. I’ve worked with hundreds of men (and women) who struggle in their relationships under the same misconceptions. Many men think of intimacy as gifts, fun, romance, and sex. They believe it can be built via physical acts—through trips to the Bahamas, to the mall, to the bedroom. And that’s the heart of the misunderstanding between intimacy vs sex.

Intimacy cannot be built physically because it’s more than that, it is a feeling, an emotional state, one that expands beyond the physical closeness of sex. Intimacy is really about transparency. It’s about letting your partner see the good, the bad, and the ugly about you as a whole person. When viewed from this perspective, being honest with your partner about your feelings (how her joke at your expense made you angry or how you feel neglected when she spends your evenings together texting with friends) is really just as intimate as having morning sex.

Sex is physical, yes. But intimate sex is satisfying both physically and emotionally. And who wouldn’t want more of that?

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