Robo Man Syndrome, When Men Don’t Emote

Men Do Not Emote.  Well, SOME men. Robo Man Syndrome When Men Do Not Emote.  This is a common issue that comes up. I’m Dr. Laura Dabney this is Joelle Brant we both work with executive men to help them with their relationships.  We support the Robo man syndrome men who do not emote.  We’ve talked about emotions and how they sometimes like to protect themselves from emotions in ways it might not be a good idea. Such as pathological altruism and doing everything for everyone at the expense of yourself not be at boundaries. We talked about boundaries more popular ones we spoke of panic and anxiety, yes, phobias oh yeah Joelle’s phobia. I did kill an ant yesterday, so maybe I’m making progress.  Well I’ve been talking we’ve both been talking with Dr. Jed diamond, and I am fond of him. He is a psychologist who works outside of San Francisco, and he played a significant role in helping us understand men’s emotions. He has a very similar clientele to us. So we have a lot in common, and it’s been a joy to talk with him he wrote the book male menopause back in the 70s, and since then he’s gotten interested in what he calls irritable man syndrome. Which are men who feel the only emotion they’re allowed to have is anger.  If they’re hurt, they’re angry; if they’re sad, they’re mad, you know everything else comes out that’s anger! That’s been interesting. So that’s what he sees the most that are what he sees a lot of. That’s what we’ve been writing about. I was talking about what I see and what we talked about, which is Robo man. It’s a little different than irritable man but along the same lines where men often feel that any kind of emoting is harmful or effeminate or something’s not right with it. They are trying to, and they will tell if this is a conscious thing they were trying to be robotic. I’m going to have no emotion shut down or get down even.  I just shut it down yeah it’ll be the only kind of involute does the other word I use a lot the in Buddhist goes like oyster into their shell they clam up, and there’s nobody home this will not help you can’t penetrate that which can be very frustrating for people in their lives. They’re trying to get a sense of what’s going on, and there’s an emotion attached to what’s going on. They won’t even they won’t just say platitudes or general statements. They …

Men, Emotions, and Mental Health Myths

  Men and emotions and mental health myths. We’re live again!! Hi happy Tuesday! Tuesday feels like a Monday for me, double Monday. Double Monday week that’s not good. Why are we doing this? We are this doing this to help you understand what we do! Did we explain why were wanted to do this? We talked about a couple things. your hair, your kids, but really what we’re talking about is what it’s like to be  someone in mental health. Also about men and their masculinity. So that’s really what that’s what we’re talking about right because it’s so much. I think it’s really misunderstood, what it’s like to have a mental health problem. It is not always a disorder but it may be health or emotional problem and what getting help is like. There is a huge amount of misconception about that so we’re just trying to put some of that to rest. We want to break the myths and the stigma and that people think it’s really scary or they’re so afraid to come in.  As we mentioned in one of our videos we want to be a little bit more approachable. Let us make it a little bit easier, less fearful to come in and learn. Learn about you !!! I mean, not knowing about yourself is like not knowing the third floor of your house. By not understanding your emotions and where they come from you miss out on so much information about yourself. Here is a quick recap of last week. we touched about you know the three negative emotions that people mostly don’t deal with or know how to deal with anger, neediness, and sadness. Say it with us anger, neediness, sadness, are not bad things!! they’re not bad feelings! We always mention these emotions that people are trying to hide. those are the people who think they that those are a problem they shouldn’t have, that’s the source of most emotional problems right there. yeah so we see that a lot we probably talked about that a lot and then I added that one post about how we see.   Even  though we see that in both men and women.  there are some differences we see in men and women in that regard and I wrote a little post about that that got a little attention I would say how would I sum …