Stop Always Picking the Wrong Partner!

      I don’t know if there’s really one answer right probably multi-fold reasons or it could be one reason for someone another reason for another but it usually kind of comes down to a few tendencies I think or a combination of these tendencies that we’ve touched on before but maybe we talked about the combination how it’s like a lethal combination of tendencies so we talked about red flags. There are people who have obvious obvious obvious problems with relationships or relating to people and there are people who miss those red flags yeah they don’t want to see them for one reason or another we usually talk about those red flags sort of I’ve written paper where they listed 50 of them so instead of doing that they tend to fall into these categories one being self-care. I’m not able to care for themselves and that could be can’t hold a job self-mutilate sore self harms those kinds of things like always being late is one thing right that I’m late ya know that y’all mentioned right that often leads to well that sometimes leads to not be able to care for himself right now you have a job or get through a degree or an education, impulsivity, lack of being able to control oneself, drinking too much, spending too much all the time. We’re not talking about once in a while we’re talking about somebody who chronic or habitually does this. Somebody who does not follow the law. It’s like cheating, this person isn’t following the rules, does not think the rules of society apply to them so they’re not going to follow the rules in a relationship. Lack of empathy, such as being late- to they don’t care about your time. Or they don’t care about your issues or your concerns they don’t matter to them. They don’t take it seriously. They’re not going to if you have a problem they’re not gonna take it seriously these are people you know they just can’t do the give-and-take of a relationship. Their needs count more than yours. They take but can’t give whereas the ideal relationship is a balance of both. What happens with the people who can’t see the red flags? A lot of times that is if they can’t see those red flags it boils not to critical judgment being able to on your own realize okay this is a not a good person for me and that could be too different I’ve seen it two different times you know you have one where there’s someone who let’s say always pick …