Strongman Book

Are you strong when it matters most?

Emotional courage may not be what you think it is, and it’s definitely more powerful than you know.

Strong Man by Dr. Laura Dabney

Strong Man: Real truths about emotional courage, mental weakness, and how to tell the difference.

As a child, every boy aspires to be the hero, to be the one gifted with the courage to overcome villains, monsters and all that threatens harm. He craves the one power on which the hero never falters: the power over fear.So why, when each generation begins with such pure intentions, do we see alcoholism, divorce and violence continue to skyrocket? Worse still, why do we point fingers at the men affected by and inflicting these incidents and call them weak?

In this short and highly accessible book, Dr. Laura Dabney condenses the powerful insights she’s drawn from nearly two decades of working with hundreds of men—professionals, public personalities and financiers, alike—men who have reached the pinnacle of outward success but who privately struggle with highly personal and painful issues. First among them: courage in any form is commendable, but emotional courage is king.


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    End the exhaustion.

    Quit battling overwhelming emotions like anger and shame.

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    Harness your fear.

    Hear from men who have learned to use fear to their advantage in their everyday lives.

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    Rise above.

    Identify the emotionally courageous people in your life and quit getting dragged down by all the others.

Excerpt from Strong Man, By Dr. Laura Dabney

We’ve all known courageous people, and from our experiences with them we know that courage takes many forms. The kid who protected his little brother from the bullies on the school bus displayed physical courage. Our most famous inventors—Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Madam Curie, Steve Jobs—all displayed intellectual courage. Moral and social courage take center stage during times of societal upheaval and personal change: Rosa Parks, who refused to vacate her seat on the bus, corporate whistle-blowers who risked life and livelihood for the sake of the truth, the kid who risked daily ridicule at school and chose to play the tuba, anyway. When our eyes are open to it, we see acts of courage every day.Emotional courage can be harder to see because it’s a battle often fought in our own minds. It’s also one of the most difficult forms of courage to develop, especially for men. After all, as a culture we don’t generally do our boys any favors by teaching them how to be emotionally courageous. In fact, we do quite the opposite. We tell our boys to suck it up, brush it off, quit crying, and act like a man. We teach our boys to shove their feelings aside, to push them down deep where no one will see them, expecting emotions, like dirt, to scatter and disappear on the wind.

Then we marvel at the skyrocketing rates of alcoholism and divorce and violence. Even more, we point fingers at these violent and alcoholic men and call them weak.

—Dr. Laura Dabney, Strong Man

Strong Man by Dr. Laura Dabney

Rewrite the story of your future.



Meet Dr. Dabney

Relationship stress is no match for Dr. Dabney. Every week, she works with patients in dozens of cities across the United States, helping them break the patterns of past relationships and beat a path to a happier, healthier future. She owns a leading clinical practice in Virginia Beach and has been Board Certified in Psychiatry. Learn more at